I could not think of any other way of starting this post, other than saying who I am. So, first things first, I am Lili, I used to have a pastry atelier and now I blog and walk dogs! I wrote my first post here a couple of months ago, about 3 things I learned from my business.
Sometimes I think we have to choose too soon what we want to be in life, don’t you? At least, back in Brazil (where I come from) when you finish school, it is like a rule that you have to know what you are going to study – and be – for the rest of your life. Doesn’t this sound harsh: for the rest of your life?
I guess life has to be decided when you are in your late teens, and you do not have a clue of what that actually means. Don’t get me wrong, I really have this admiration for the people who are born convicted of what they want to do for rest of their lives. It is just like my dad, which has this passion for what he does, and his favorite hobby is to work. Isn’t that weird? Weren’t we supposed to have hobbies away from work? Because my favorite hobby is… well, I have many of them to choose at this moment. I just love life in general: I love to write, I love to sing, I love to sleep, I love to watch series, I love make-up, I love to garden, I love to cook pastries, I love to travel, I just love many things and I could go on and on with my list here!
Do I sound like crazy now? Well, the point is, back then, when I was 18, I wanted to do something that I never had the guts to do. I wanted to study International Relations and work with humanitarian causes together with embassies or – dreaming big – for the UN! At that time, my dad took me to the Peruvian embassy to meet the ambassador, something like a visit to show me how things where not as easy as had thought, and at the time I agreed with him. He didn’t do it as a bad thing; he just wanted to show me all the perspectives of the job. After that, I decided to study something that I thought I also liked: Hotel Management.
Hmm, both courses couldn’t have been more different. That is what I mean when I say that sometimes I do think it is too early to decide our lives when we are just 18. Not that we have to have this exact age to know it, but maturity makes you realize what are the things that you do best and with joy. Actually, I think that joy should be at the top of the list when you choose a career. You have to have a reason why you do things, and these reasons – at least that’s what I think – have to make you happy!
Of course I realized that Hotel Management was not my dream career when I was half way through it, but it was not fair to drop out, so I finished it. I guess that what I learned there has been useful at some points in my life. However, I will probably never know if International Relations would have been my dream job. Perhaps, if I’d tried it, it might have been, but not anymore. And I don’t regret quitting.
I was glad that finishing the university didn’t mean I had to work with hotels for the rest of my life. I still had the choice of doing what I wanted and embrace the opportunities around me; and that is what I did. I had a job offer in Dubai that would make me travel the world. It sounded like a dream and in part, it was, as I had the dream of traveling the world. I would work with hospitality, not at hotels but on airplanes.
It was a good, not perfect experience, but now – more than at the time – I realize how much I’ve learned from it. It is funny how sometimes you realize years later the value of an experience. This sounds as if I were an old woman already but no, I am still in my early thirties and that has brought me some good learning! It is true what people say that turning 30 can change your life!
I am super happy for what I understand now, for the person I have become (that is a bit different from the one years ago) but at the same time, it is quite strange to grow older! I think that I love life too much to think that someday it can really end! I know, it is part of the process, everybody gets old… it is normal! I know!
The good thing is that, in a way or another the understanding comes and you realize that you can be whatever you want, at any stage of your life. It doesn’t really matter when you discover what makes you happy; what really matters is that you go for it and do it!
See you soon!
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